A Simple Guide For Writing Your Own Vows
If you’re planning a wedding in Perth, one of the most personal and memorable parts of your ceremony will be your wedding vows. Writing your own vows lets you express your unique love story and promises in your own words making the moment even more special.
But if you’re feeling a little overwhelmed about how to start or what to say, don’t worry! Here’s a simple step-by-step guide to help you write heartfelt vows that will resonate with your partner and your guests.
1. Reflect on Your Relationship
Start by thinking about your journey as a couple. What moments stand out? What qualities do you love most about your partner? Jot down memories, feelings, and shared dreams that feel meaningful to you both. I have created a little questionnaire for my couples to use when writing their own vows that helps them get started with the reflection process.
2. Decide on the Tone
Do you want your vows to be romantic, funny, poetic, or a mix of all three? Your vows should reflect your personality and relationship. Let your personality and the nature of your relationship shine through. Write as if you are talking to your partner one on one. Add your touch of personality to your vows. There is no one way to go about them!
3. Make Promises That Matter
The heart of wedding vows is often the promises you make to each other. Think about what you want to commit to whether it’s supporting each other through thick and thin, always being honest, or sharing your dreams for the future. Or make a simple promise of just loving each other through all the seasons life presents. Whatever you want to promise, make it authentically you and speak from the heart.
4. Keep It Concise and Clear
Aim for about 1-2 minutes when reading your vows aloud. That’s roughly 150-200 words. There is no strict rule on this and when writing, you’ll feel what length is right for you.
5. Write, Rewrite, and Practice
Don’t be afraid to rewrite your vows a few times until they feel just right. Practice reading them out loud it helps with nerves and lets you find the perfect flow and tone.
Make sure to space your vows out for ease of reading on the day and as a way to pause when needed. Wedding day jitters and excitement mean we often speak faster on the day so trying to practice and allow space for pauses will help in keeping your pace slow, steady and clear.
6. Keep It a Surprise (Optional)
Some couples like to keep their vows a surprise for the ceremony, while others share them in advance. Decide what feels right for you and your partner. There is no one right way.
Why Write Your Own Vows for Your Wedding?
Personal vows create an intimate, authentic moment during your wedding ceremony that reflects your unique love story. As your Perth & South West marriage celebrant, I’m here to help you craft vows that truly resonate, ensuring your ceremony is memorable and meaningful.
If writing your own vows just isn’t your thing, that’s totally fine too! I have plenty of pre written vows to choose from or mix and match. Or, if you want to keep things super simple, you can just stick to the legal vows. Your wedding is yours to craft, no two ceremonies are exactly the same and that is the beauty of it all. Telling your love story the way you want to.
Need Help Writing Your Vows?
If you’d like guidance or want me to review your vows before the big day, just ask! I love helping couples in create beautiful, heartfelt and unique ceremonies.
Contact me today to chat about your upcoming Perth or South West wedding ceremony and vow-writing tips.